Thursday Aug 24, 2017
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Learn why secrecy, infidelity and mendacity occur in all relationships whether it's familial, platonic, romantic or otherwise.
Ever felt like your best friend was cheating on you with a new acquaintance? Did secrets shred the ties of your extended family? Have you committed an indiscretion for which you still bathe in self-loathing? Secrecy, infidelity, and mendacity occur in all relationships -- familial, platonic, and romantic. Heteronormative. Pansexual. Power exchange. Monogamous. Polyamorous. Why? Join Sera Miles for a discussion of what constitutes infidelity and an in-depth examination of the main reasons why people cheat. We’ll pull apart how secret-keeping patterns, shame, negative self-image, and toxic familial pathologies lead us into behaviors based in mendacity -- as well as into relationships in which we tolerate infidelity. Mendacity and boundary-crossing are deadly, to ourselves and others. You can create new patterns for your relationship and learn how to better negotiate the sickness that secrecy has wrought in your life.
Sera Miles is CEO of PEP, est. 1990, provider of BDSM/ fetish conversation. Her sex work career has included domination and switch live sessions; starring in fetish videos from Strict Women, Pacific Force, and Kelly Payne; voicing the female leads in the porn computer games Bonetown and Bonecraft; and offering taboo-free phone conversation. Sera founded New Mexico FetLifers and directed the non-profit social group for its six vibrant years, during which the organization produced the conference "Evolution of the Revolution,” and she co-founded New Mexico's Sex Workers Outreach Project chapter. She’s presented at DomConLA, Beat Me in St Louis, KinkLincs in Seattle, and Behind Closed Doors in Tucson, as well as at many groups and universities across the Southwest. In 2016, the Sexual Assault Nurse Examiners of New Mexico invited Sera to speak about kink and consent at their annual conference. Currently, Sera serves as the BDSM expert adviser to New Mexico’s Strangulation Public Health Task Force. Most recently, the United Court of the Sandias bestowed upon Sera the Lifetime Title “Inspiration of the Sandias.” Sera identifies as a demisexual Leather D-type, in addition to the identities of owner, activist, editor, type-A personality, sex worker, and Leo Dragon.
We offer an early bird discount for the first 7, paid signups up to two days before the class. All other tickets are $20/person. Use promo code EB08.24.2017 to get the early bird pricing.