Tying the Gordian Knot: Marriage equality amplifies affinity spectrum
CC BY Danielle Madeley
I'm a relative newcomer to the world of marriage, but I already know a little: It's not a contract to be entered into lightly. The person you marry should be your must trusted confidant, your best friend, your most ardent fan and (sometimes) your harshest critic. But when it works, it's really lovely. And even when it doesn't work quite as well—
especially in comparison to the reality-challenged world of the rom-com—
it's still pretty great.
When I got married (to the absolute love of my life) in 2012, same-sex marriages weren't legally recognized by the state of New Mexico. As excited as I was to get married—and perhaps more importantly, to be married—it really harshed my nuptial buzz to know that so many of my friends were not allowed access to that right. Thankfully the realm of marriage equality in New Mexico has been reformed to respect the rights of all couples that populate this enchanted, difficult landscape.
In celebration of love and equality, Weekly Alibi is calling for essays (of less than 750 words) on the meaning of marriage equality and surviving the before-time ... when the marital rights of all citizens were not deemed equal. Email essays to firstname.lastname@example.org, including "Pride 2014" in the subject line. We really want to hear your story. Some will be sad and some joyous, and we want to hear them all. Why? Because your stories—the trajectories of your lives—in the here and now are history-in-the-making. All our stories and all our loves were always equal ... The New Mexican political/legal system just had to come to its senses and recognize that.
CC BY Samir Luther
If your choose to share your story—and we sincerely hope you will—we'll invite some of you to join us on our Chapel of Love-themed Pride 2014 float; we'll be near the front of the parade, right behind Equality New Mexico's company of already-married husbands, and wives. After the parade, we offer to usher you in to a group ceremony on Main Stage ... or not. Our choices about how and whether to get married have a lot of cultural, traditional and religious significance and implications. And we respect that. But there's no rule that you can't get married to the same person more than once. The personal is political, and we will be honored to bear witness to all those who wish to be united. In coordination with Albuquerque Pride, we've arranged for Metropolitan Community Church Pastor Rev. Judith L. Maynard to officiate the ceremony.
So write us at email@example.com. And to everyone else, we'll see y'all at Pride. We'll be the ones waiting down by the chapel ... dressed in white.