More Wisdom Than Years
Sometimes journalism is difficult because the sources aren't forthcoming or polished speakers, requiring extra effort to tease compelling morsels out of interview material. This week’s cover story was difficult for the opposite reason: Every single person I contacted was articulate, knowledgable, insightful and well-spoken. Their statements were thought-provoking and their stories inspiring. Lissa, a member of the Transgender Resource Center's youth group was no exception, though what she shared with me didn't make it into the print edition.
“Like most transgender people, I've known that I was trans for a really long time,” she told me.
In 8th grade, after confessing in confidence to one of her best friends that she was trans, he outed her to the entire school. Coming out to her mother wasn't any easier.
“I was really suicidal for a time, and my mom walked in on what was my second attempt. My first was when I was little, but I chickened out, thankfully.” Lissa said her mother still struggles to accept who she really is, but “she's of the mindset that it's better to have another daughter than a dead son. It's not accepting, but it's at least tolerant.”
Lissa's journey through adolescence has been eased somewhat by a doctor's prescription for testosterone blockers, an active Gay-Straight Alliance group at school and a supportive group of friends. She's also found an outlet on YouTube where she posts videos aimed at other young people struggling to reconcile their gender identity.
When I told Lissa that she and other youth group members seemed much so much more mature than their age, she theorized that it comes with the territory of their experiences.
“You're making very mature decisions about your life. You grow up really fast, and you grow up hiding because from a very young age you know something's different and you're going to be hated for it.”
Pride-Time Disco Nap
Ten mellow, bittersweet, gay songs
Pride can be exhausting—perhaps you need a disco nap?
Go ahead and make a cup of chamomile and take a break from the shimmer and feathers and accelerated BPMs with this relaxed mix of songs sung by gay men.
Hot damn, it’s bound to be sweaty this week as Albuquerque Pride 2012 kicks off. Temperatures could soar over 100 degrees on Saturday when the crowning festivities take over the city. The better to glue your glitter with, my pretty!
From the bravery of Stonewall rioters to the chief pro-Prop 8 witness reversing his stance on Friday, there are countless shining moments of LGBTQ history to celebrate. With that in mind, the Alibi and Albuquerque Pride proudly extend a sparkle-laden Group Hug to start the revelry off right.
Exclamatory particulars of the Pre-Pride Glam Dance Party:
Wednesday, June 27 (Tomorrow!)
18+ welcome, but you must be 21 to drink. (Don’t forget your ID!)
Lotus nightclub, 211 Gold SW.
A mere $5 gets you in the door.
DJs Tahnee, Nicolatron and Cassyle will spin disco / electro / glam hits to whirl your Disco Queen into a frenzy. Rebel Donuts’ sugar wizardry will have her licking glitter frosting off your face. Hotpants, shiny jumpsuits, towering collars, feathered hair, space oddities—all mightily encouraged.
2011 OUTstanding Awards
The votes have been cast, the results are in and the winners will be announced tonight at 7 p.m. as the 2011 OUTstanding Awards commences at the Hyatt Regency Albuquerque (330 Tijeras NW). The freshly hatched awards ceremony—only in its second consecutive year—recognizes exemplary individuals and businesses providing inimitable support for the LGBT community. Food, a cash bar and a silent auction precede the red-carpet awards with DJ Chris de Jesus spinning at the after-party. Tickets are $35, and can be had by visiting abqpride.com. Formal attire is strongly encouraged.
Celebrate Bisexuality Day
Celebrate Bisexuality Day has been official since 1999. To celebrate, go watch this fun 90s Blur video, support your friends who are out of the closet, educate yourself about the local community, go get a date and please avoid drunkenly making out with members of the same sex just because your significant other thinks it's hot. That's usually less celebratory and more exploitative, unless of course, you explain the situation to the third party in advance. (You can always ask for advice at Carnal Conundrums how to go about that politely.)
Let your Bi Flag fly as this part of our diverse community is celebrated around the world.
Sexy Food and Pride Revisited
New Carnal Conundrums
The newest Carnal Conundrums discusses an age-old question. Are people playing with their food or are they playing with their food? Head over to New Mexico's Alternative Sex-positive Advice column oh ye curious adults, to find out and ask questions of your own! Also, feel free to check out last year's Pride Edition if you're still making your mind about whether or not you should go this weekend. (Short answer is yes, you probably should.) Remember, if you have a question that's a bit on the alternative side, Julian's here for you, just Ask Away.