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V.23 No.15 | 4/10/2014
Love ain’t easy—just ask Molly Bloom (Sheridan Johnson) or Leopold Bloom (Brennan Foster).
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Sometimes Poison Is the Only Cure

Gibraltar stages edgy relationship at the heart of Joyce’s Ulysses

Gibraltar follows Molly and Leopold Bloom over the course of a single day in Dublin. With their marriage on the rocks, Leopold is willing to try anything to rekindle the passion, even allow Molly to hook up with her overbearing concert manager Hugh “Blazes” Boylan.
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opinion

Facebook ... lame?

Humorist John Bear gives us an emphatic yes. But since Facespace needs you to exist, it has a hard time letting go.

Read all about it, in “Facebook never got me laid.”

It seems old Bear’s not the only one ditching the interfacing platform. The users are dropping away. CNN is predicting its death.

V.21 No.9 | 3/1/2012

Bear With Me

Facebook Never Got Me Laid

People use Facebook as a substitute for human-on-human contact. It's not. You don't communicate on Facebook. You “interface.” It's an ersatz relationship.

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V.20 No.51 | 12/22/2011
OK for the ugly sweater party. Not OK for the office.

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Workplace Meat Market

The Alibi’s advice columnist talks sexual harassmentit’s not just for women.

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news

The Daily Word in lions, commoners and mixtapes

Breaking Bad” smashes ratings record with Season 4 finale. (Remember when we interviewed the Cranston and the show’s creator?)

UNM students protest Chick-fil-A for donating money to groups that oppose gay rights.

Sarah the lion at the zoo has died.

KOB grills Occupy Albuquerque protesters for solutions.

We have a permit. It’s called the Constitution.” Occupy Boston.

Gov. Susana Martinez’ PAC took in thousands during the legislative session, though state law prohibits politicos from doing so directly.

Target promises to sell only sustainable seafood by 2015.

Gawker dubs FOX News article on funny, sexy women possibly the most horrifying thing ever written.

Top headline of the day: Why are these galaxies bending like crazy snakes?

Mixtape of the lost decade.

Slutoween is coming!

King of Bhutan marries a commoner. Trendy.

Taiwanese death metal.

Why some women are not getting married.

V.20 No.40 | 10/6/2011
Kat’s rare skin disease

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Roomies and Romance

The Alibi’s advice columnist takes on a dating taboo.

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V.20 No.35 | 9/1/2011
Kat will break YOU

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The Real Deal-Breaker

The Alibi’s advice columnist tells a reader to quit mooning after men who don’t accept hermissing limb and all.

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V.20 No.30 | 7/28/2011
SkeptiKat

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The Weirdness of Others

Alibi advice columnist offers this: Don’t take it personally when women shift their chairs in cafes.

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V.20 No.29 | 7/21/2011
Kat, benevolent advice-bestower

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To Tell or Not to Tell

Alibi advice columnist says: We women can be so cruel to each other, and it would seem a service to our sisterhood to tip her off that she may be facing some issues. Of course, that cattiness we often bring to our relationships with women means she may turn on you and not her husband.

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V.20 No.25 | 6/23/2011
See? Hobbies.

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Dating in Your Forties

The Alibi’s advice-bestower talks about love lives in Burque and doing the robot.

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blog

Examining Ex

This evening I posted to one of my social networking sites that I was being entertained due to the assistance of a former male lover. I originally had typed ex-boyfriend, but I realized that that wasn’t true on several levels. The first and foremost being the fact that “Ex” sounds so mean. It’s not a pretty sounding prefix, and it doesn’t have pretty connotation. Think Geek offer's this little number called "The Ex" to help take out aggression in a potentially healthy, culinary fashion.

Just think of other places that’s it is used- exanimate (dead), exile (banished), exasperate (annoy), expatriate. Let’s look more at expatriate.

Merriam-Webster defines that word as follows:

To withdraw (oneself) from residence in or allegiance to one's native country intransitive verb : to leave one's native country to live elsewhere; also : to renounce allegiance to one's native country

If you really think of it, calling someone an ex does allude to the fact that one of you withdrew, or that you renounced your allegiance to each other- or some other rather unpleasant thing. Most of the time, even the positive references go something like this. “Oh! That’s my ex! No, it’s ok, we’re cool.” It’s assumed that things aren’t cool, so it deems explanation every time. The former lover that I was referencing and I ended our romantic relationship in a very peaceful way. We discussed what had been going on and decided mutually that we needed to end that part of our dynamic. There wasn’t any revoking of allegiance or banishing, heck, we shared several more months under the same roof. Yeah, there was some hurt afterward, but it just doesn’t seem right calling him, or a several other people in my romantic history, exes. Yes, there are a few people who more than earned that prefix, but it’s just not appropriate with everyone. Some former relationships have moved into new titles altogether, like “best friend” and “playmate.” My guess is that I’m not the only one that has found this bit of our vernacular a bit abrasive. Do you have former relationships that didn’t work out the way you thought they would but you‘ve maintained or reestablished a friendship? What do you call them? Is just calling them a friend enough?

When you’re in my business, it’s good to reference the sexier parts of life, but even outside of that I find it valid to reference deeper connections than casual friendship; it seems to be more honest. Most of us mention if we were school mates, co-workers or childhood friends when we introduce each other, why not find a nicer term for former romantic relationships and lovers than ex?

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