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I need help. My man tells me he wants to be romanced. He doesn’t like being treated like “a piece of meat.” What does that look like for a man?
Lost in a Man’s World
Dear Lost in a Man’s World,
While we all like to be treated like a piece of meat sometimes, I do understand your partner’s concern. Romance means something different to each of us. For me, romance is recognizing our partner’s eccentricities and finding them adorable. Whoever dates me, for instance, needs to know that I am always the star of the show and always demand attention, and they have to love it. For others, romance could mean knowing that someone sees us for who we are and acknowledges that with genuine interest and understanding.
What interests does your partner have? Think about what they like and cater your romancing that way. For instance, does your man like NASCAR? Take him to a drag race (different kind of drag race, my dears). Does he like guns? Take him to an NRA rally. In all seriousness, we all just want to know that someone is thinking about us and cares. No matter our gender, kindness is sexy.
If you really want to know what romance means to your partner, you need to communicate with them and ask them. For some, it is a home-cooked meal. For some, it is a night on the town. For others, it is a sexy striptease involving exotic fruit. Whatever it is, the most romantic thing we can do is listen to our partner. Hope this helps, my lovely.